How to Invite a Third Person into the Relationship
Sex is full of important decisions for the two people involved. For those of you in a monogamous relationship, there can occasionally be a decision to bring in a third party into your sex life. While it is not the norm, it does happen and it should not be a decision which is entered into lightly. But if you are careful in your planning then it can be a situation you end up enjoying and feeling good about afterwards.
The important thing to do is have a ton of dialogue with your current partner about why you both are arriving at the decision to invite another person into the relationship. It’s important for you both to be upfront about your fears and more importantly your expectations.
Defining your expectations isn’t just about making your partner aware of how often you would like to invite someone into the bedroom (meaning if this is just a one-time occurrence or not) but rather how you expect the night itself to go. What do you envision happening? How do you envision your partner enjoying the experience? And both of you should be fully aware that the possibility of bringing someone in could cause difficult feelings in the relationship even if you have planned for all the eventual problems.
The person you decide to invite in needs to be someone that you and your partner both agree to and are comfortable with. They need to be someone who is understanding of what you both expect and what you are looking for. It’s more important that you find someone who you are comfortable with than someone who tips the scales in the attraction department.
Another important aspect of inviting a third person into your relationship is that once the night or occurrence is over to have a long and thorough talk with your partner about the entire event. Ask them questions about how they felt and what was going through your head. And don’t plan to do anything again for a while, even if you both seemed to enjoy it. Things can change quickly.
