If the most interesting thing that you and your significant other have talked about recently is getting pet insurance, you may need to start thinking about spicing things up a little. For many couples, the lack of a good sexual relationship can be a sign of a much bigger problem. Though this is not always the case, it wouldn’t hurt to talk to your partner about what is going on.
Many times, a lack of sexual activity in an otherwise healthy relationship can be caused by quite a few different factors. If one or both of you deal with stressful jobs on a daily basis, unfortunately that stress can be brought home. Along with this, if you are going all the time, with little to no time to rest and relax, it may just be simple exhaustion that is getting in the way of your sex life. These are things that can easily be overcome, with just a little bit of time and energy. Talk about what the problem is. If you feel extremely tired and just don’t feel you have the energy for sex, let your partner know. Take some time to relax, and try to remember that sex is not a chore. It is a fun, great way to show your significant other that you love them.
Another reason that is prevalent for lack of sex in a relationship is that one or both of you may be dealing with depression. Depression is a serious problem for many people, and many times, with the onset of depression, the amount of sex that a couple has will significantly drop. If this is the case, and one of you is dealing with depression, it could be a good idea to seek out counseling. Getting through the depression, or even being able to work around it, can be a huge help for any sexual relationship.
Here’s a basic question: When does sex begin? That may seem like a silly question, but do you know the answer? Few do, and certainly not anyone under the age of 18!
Does it begin when a couple begins holding hands? Or does it begin once an organ is inserted into a cavity? Does it begin with tantalizing looks and the explicit exposure of skin in clothing bought at exorbitant prices, or does it begin with a hand down the trousers?
While these questions may simply be philosophical issues best left to Ph.d’s in a laboratory, they carry significant weight and implications to your life and a probably the health and well-being of your current or future family.
Few recognize today that sex can begin well before two individuals are cavorting in the back of a car. Perhaps it is classified as “allure” or “seduction.” In either case, it is best to be conscious of it and to acknowledge its ramifications. More than one innocent youth in the history of mankind has been lead astray by a pair of tight pants and a steamy look!
Understanding and acknowledgement of lewd behavior can save you time and energy. A person can be spared the inconvenience of an unwanted sexual encounter simply by recognizing what another is communicating with his or her clothing and attitude. The rock n’roll culture of today has become so common-place, in fact, that most people don’t recognize that gyrating hips implies sexual activity!
If you can learn to spot behavior patterns which are precursors to sex, you can avoid a lot of complications and damaging behavior. You can learn to say “no” to a person well before you are vainly trying to remove his or her hands from your clothing. Let’s face it: once the hormones are a-boiling, it becomes more and more difficult to say you don’t want to have sex. It’s better to recognize the signs of sex well in advance.
From time to time, some people lose their interest in sex. There can be several reasons for this, and it does seem to happen to women more often than it does to men. No matter what age bracket you’re in, whether you have a current partner, or which gender you are, there are things you can do in order to get your sexual interest back. The first thing you should do is visit your doctor to rule out a medical problem. Some health problems can really kill your sex drive, and it’s important to rule them out before you do anything else. Once you’ve been given a clean bill of health physically, assess your mental health. Problems like depression and anxiety can also make you lose interest in sex.
If you’re depressed or having problems with anxiety or panic attacks, seeing a therapist for a few sessions may help you regain some perspective. There are also medications you can take to improve these conditions – although some of them can lower your sex drive. Be sure to steer clear of medications with this side effect, if you’re already struggling in that area. Also, talking with your partner can help. Maybe there’s something else in your relationship that’s causing you to feel too overwhelmed or tired for sex very often. Perhaps there’s a problem that you’re not dealing with, or something about your partner that’s turning you off to the idea of having sex.
While it might be difficult, the best thing you can do for your sexual relationship is to be open and honest with your partner. If there’s a large issue, this can be very hard to deal with. If there are smaller issues that your partner won’t see as significant, it might be hard for him or her to understand why you put such importance on something that might seem meaningless to someone else. Put those fears aside and choose to be open and honest, anyway. Once you talk things out, you may come to resolutions that will spark your interest in each other once again.
